Contents

       Cover

       Title Page

Foreword

Rule 1 Relax during the Engagement and Wedding

Rule 2 Continue to Be ‘a Creature Unlike Any Other’

Rule 3 Keep Your Own Life

Rule 4 Lower Your Expectations in the First Year

Rule 5 Be a Team

Rule 6 Accept that Some Things Are None of Your Business

Rule 7 Let Him Win

       Rule 8 Be Supportive

       Rule 9 Don’t Ask Your Single Friends for Marital Advice

       Rule 10 Try Not to Call Him Too Much at Work

       Rule 11 Don’t Expect a Lot of Sympathy from Him

       Rule 12 Give Him 15 Minutes Alone When He Comes Home

       Rule 13 Don’t Use the ‘D’ Word

       Rule 14 Don’t Engage – and Other Rules for Rows

       Rule 15 Say What You Mean, in the Nicest Possible Way

       Rule 16 To Compare Is to Despair – Don’t Compare Him to Other Husbands

       Rule 17 Have a Family Dinner at Least Once a Week

       Rule 18 Have a ‘Date’ Night

       Rule 19 Don’t Force Him to ‘Talk’

       Rule 20 Don’t Hang on His Every Word

       Rule 21 Do Things You Don’t Want to Do

       Rule 22 Rarely Return His Gifts

       Rule 23 He Can Say Anything about His Family – But You Can’t

       Rule 24 Don’t Try to Do It All

       Rule 25 Rules for Sex

       Rule 26 Rules for Pregnancy

       Rule 27 Listen to His Advice and Try to Appreciate It

       Rule 28 Make Him Feel Like the Most Important Person in Your Life

       Rule 29 Don’t Nag

       Rule 30 Don’t Complain about the Kids

       Rule 31 Keep It to Yourself

       Rule 32 Don’t Expect Applause for Doing Chores

       Rule 33 Don’t Shout

       Rule 34 Don’t Find Fault with Things You Knew about When You Married Him

       Rule 35 It’s Easier to Stay Married than Get Married

       Rule 36 Don’t Be Surprised If Your Husband Lies

       Rule 37 Don’t Go Changing or Trying Too Hard

       Rule 38 Realize that Your Marriage Is Over If He Cheats Even Once

       Rule 39 Don’t Think Marriage Guidance Is the Answer

       Rule 40 Divorce with Dignity

       Rule 41 Date Again as Soon as Poss

       Listen to What Men Say

       Rules for Second Marriages

       More Rules from Happily Married Women

       Final Thoughts from a Rules Facilitator

       Fifteen Extra Hints

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