1  Cover

      2  Front Matter

      3  Introduction Notes

      4  1 The Ideology of the New The Contemporary Degradation of Love Lives Resignation or Dopamine? Narcissistic Love Two Lies for Our Time The New Libertine Ideology Love as Resistance to the Libertine Worship of the New Notes

      5  2 Encounter and Destiny Love as Oedipal Repetition Falling in Love with Ourselves The Scream of Life The Discussion about Barolo The Sexual Relationship Does Not Exist We Are Loved Not Because of Something, But ‘Because of Everything’ The Loving Encounter is the Birth of a World Disappointed Love The Eros of the Encounter Fidelity The Face and the Eternal Notes

      6  3 Trauma and Abandonment A Captive Freedom? Albertine Is the Promise of Love Always False? ‘It’s Not Like It Used To Be’ What Is a Trauma? The First Blow Trauma is the Flipside of Repression Trauma in Love Falling into Non-Sense The Fall This Side of the Mirror A Wound With No Cure Abandonment Notes

      7  4 The Work of Forgiveness Courageous Love The Adulterous Woman To Forgive the Unforgivable? Reflection by the Subject The Impossibility of Forgiving Out Of Love The Work of Forgiveness and the Work of Mourning Forgiveness and Gratitude Why Men Find It More Difficult to Forgive Violence Without Law Violence and Love The Tender Assassin Absolute Exposure to Love Virgil’s Gloves Narcissism and Depression Woman’s Foreign Language ‘They Are All Whores!’ Killing Them in Order to ‘Love’ Them The Joy of Forgiveness? Forgiving Oneself Notes

      8  End User License Agreement

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