Table of Contents

       Table of Contents

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       Section One: Sex is as Complicated as the Adults Having It

       Introduction

       Three New Rational Rules of Sex

       Dr. Brame’s 3 Rules of Sex

       The Shame of It

       Sex and Self-Esteem

       The Urge to Merge and Consensuality

       Section TWO: Diversity is Normal

       Sexual Identity Crisis and Conflict

       Sex Should Be What It Is

       Labels, Definitions and Sex Models

       Relationship Types

       Marriage Customs Will Surprise You

       A Concise List of Models of Partnered Adult Relationships

       Monogamy

       Polyamory

       Sex Acts

       MOVA/MOA

       Variations on MOVA/MOA

       Kink, BDSM, and Erotism

       Towards a Redefinition of Kink

       Two Worlds of Kink: Erotism and BDSM

       Erotism

       BDSM

       Technology-Dependent Sex and Future Sex

       The Data on Diversity

       Sexual Identity

       Their Choices, Their Lives

       Married to an Asexual

       Bisexual Conflict

       Sexual Identity Damage

       BDSM/Fetish Identity

       Seven Stages of Sexual Development in BDSM/Fetish People

       Solving the Sexual Identity Puzzle

       Seven Stages of Sexual Development

       Basic Schema of Sexual Identities

       Section THREE: Everyone Can Have Good Sex

       Optimal Model for Partnered Sex

       A Primer on Partnered Sex

       Before Sex: Two Rules of Sexual Etiquette

       Foreplay and Touching

       Touching Women

       Touching Men

       Touching for All

       Tantric Touch Techniques

       Oral Sex

       Cunnilingus

       Fellatio

       Vaginal Intercourse

       Positions

       How to Move

       Pleasurable Ingredients

       Five Tips on Creating Intimacy

       Anal Sex

       Sex and (some) Disabilities

       Sex with Transgendered Partners

       Sexual Enhancements and Intimacy Builders

       How to Set the Sexual Stage

       Sex Toys

       How to Extend Intimacy

       Three Ways to Slow It Down

       About the Author

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