How to Be a People Magnet: Proven Ways to Polish Your People Skills. Leil Lowndes
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How to Be a People Magnet
Proven ways to polish your people skills
Leil Lowndes
Table of Contents
How to Show You’re a Somebody in Ten Seconds
How to Make People Like You Instantly!
How to Make Small Talk Not So Small
How to Talk Like the Big Boys ‘n’ Girls
How to Be an Insider in Any Crowd
How to Build Rapport with Everyone You Meet
How to Make True and Lasting Friendships
How to Lure Lovers – and Keep Them!
I bet you know some folks who are human magnets. It’s not that they’re overly good-looking, rich or bright. But they walk into a room of strangers and people stare. They walk into a bar and people stare. They walk into a negotiation and the suits on the other side of the table instinctively smell that they are ‘big time .
If they’re single, everyone wants to be their date. If married, passionate partners are grateful to be their mate. they’re in need, faithful friends would charge over the hill, run through fire or walk on broken glass for them.
But wait a minute! They don’t have anything you haven’t got – maybe less. So what’s the secret?
That’s what you’re going to learn in How to Be a People Magnet. With the following little tricks for big success in relationships, you’ll be right on course to get whatever you want from anybody – be it business, friendship or love.
We all have a few tricks in our bags, some more than others.
CHAPTER ONE How to Show You’re a Somebody in Ten Seconds
A friend of mine, Karen, is a highly respected professional in the home-furnishings business. Her husband is an equally big name in the communications field. They have two small sons.
Whenever Karen is at a home-furnishings industry event, everyone pays deference to her. She’s a Very Important Person in that world.
Yet, Karen complains, when she accompanies her husband to communications functions, she might as well be a nobody. When she takes her kids to school functions, she’s just another mum. She once asked me, ‘Leil, how can I stand out from the crowd so people who don’t know me will approach me and at least assume I’m an interesting person?’ The following techniques in this section accomplish precisely that. When you use them, you will come across as a special person to everyone you meet. You will stand out as a Somebody in whatever crowd you find yourself in, even if it’s not your crowd.
Let’s start with your smile.
The Flooding Smile
Big Winners know their smile is one of their most powerful weapons, so they’ve fine-tuned it for maximum impact.
The old-fashioned instant grin carries no weight with today’s sophisticated crowd. Look at world leaders, negotiators and corporate giants. Not a smiling sycophant among them. Key Players in all walks of life are just ever so slower to smile so, when it does erupt, it has more potency and the world smiles with them.
TECHNIQUE 1:
The Flooding Smile
Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.
Sticky Eyes
Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people’s emotions. Big Players in the game of life know exaggerated eye contact can be extremely advantageous, especially between the sexes. In business, even when romance is not in the picture, strong eye contact packs a powerful wallop between men and women. It broadcasts a visceral message of comprehension and respect.
TECHNIQUE 2 (FOR WOMEN):
Sticky Eyes
Pretend your eyes are glued to your Conversation Partner’s with sticky warm toffee. Don’t break eye contact even after he or she has finished speaking. When you must look away, do it ever so slowly, reluctantly, stretching the gooey toffee until the tiny string finally breaks.
TECHNIQUE 3 (FOR MEN):
Sticky Eyes
When talking to men, you, too, can use Sticky Eyes. Just make them a little less sticky when discussing personal matters with men, lest your listener feel threatened or misinterpret your intentions. But do increase your eye-contact slightly more with men on day-to-day communications – and a lot more when talking to women.
Now let’s look at a very important technique to make you look like a Very Important Person.
Hang by Your Teeth
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