How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You: 85 Proven Techniques for Success. Leil Lowndes
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You sneak a second peek. Something about the stranger revs up your internal PEA factory, and a little dollop goes squirting through your veins. Maybe it’s her looks, the way he moves, something she is wearing. Her aura? Is this love at first sight? Does love at first sight even exist?
Well, that is a semantic question. Instant desire, or lust at first sight, definitely exists. However, the scientific world pretty well agrees that love at first sight is merely wisdom after the event.
‘A successful love affair, perhaps one leading to marriage, is retrospectively declared to be true love; whereas if one is rebuffed, it is classified … as infatuation’
Medical Aspects of Human Sexuality 10
Semantics aside, one fact remains. Any small stimulus can kick-start love. Your first moves when you spot a Potential Love Partner are crucial. If, from that powerful stimulus, love grows, you have every right to call it love at first sight. Nobody will argue with you.
Love at first sight has survived because it is an integral part of the many popular beliefs about romantic love. In the same way that a voodoo curse causes death only in persons who believe in its power to kill them, love at first sight truly exists for those who believe in it.
How to Make a Dynamite First Impression
First Impressions Last Forever
The first moment your Quarry lays eyes on you has awesome potency. The picture burns its way into his or her eyes and can stay emblazoned in your Quarry’s memory forever.
I have a dear friend, an older gentleman named Gerald, who is very sought after in the social scene of his home town. He is a charming escort for several elderly ladies who long ago lost their husbands. Gerald met these women when they were all in high school together back in the late 1940s. His women friends are inwardly beautiful; however, physically, several have gained weight and have long since lost their youthful attractiveness.
Once, at a party, I overheard a rude man tease Gerald about his taste in women. My friend was genuinely confused at the tactless remark.
‘But they are all beautiful!’ Gerald exclaimed. He reached into his wallet and pulled out an old, dog-eared black-and-white photograph of his high school homecoming queen and her court.
‘See?’ Gerald said to the man. Two of the three ladies he was currently escorting were in the photo. One of them was the homecoming queen. To this day Gerald sees his lady friends as beautiful as they were back in 1948. Such is the power of first impressions.
Image consultants are paid thousands of dollars to pontificate in boardrooms across America, ‘You never get a second chance to make a first impression.’ The adage has been given the exalted status of a proverb: ‘First impressions are most lasting.’ So what else is new?
What is new is this: even as we enter the 21st century we do not really comprehend the unbelievable compass and consequence of first impressions. Or on what Lilliputian details they are sometimes based.
Gentlemen, one backward baseball cap or gold chain flashing through the hair on your chest can make or break a budding relationship with the lady before you even say ‘hi’. Ladies, one quarter of a turn away when he ventures ‘hello’ can turn the handsome prince back into a frightened frog.
TECHNIQUE 1
Dress for ‘The Kill’ – Everywhere
Men, this does not mean you have to don your three-piece suit to buy the newspaper. Women, it does not mean you need to slap on three coats of mascara to walk the dog. What it does mean is whenever you step out the door, step out dressed to kill … your Quarry.
If first impressions are so crucial and a Potential Love Partner makes the ‘go/no go’ decision within seconds of spotting you, here is the big question: why do people looking for love spend so much time making themselves attractive when they go out on a date but so little when they take the dog to the vet? By the time you have the date, your Quarry’s first impression of you has already been set. How you look on the date is, of course, important. But it is not nearly as decisive as his or her first glimpse of you.
You don’t realize it, but here is the sad truth: you have probably let dozens of PLPs get away in recent months just because your trap was not set – you were not fixed up for the kill. Hunters, that means you were not dressed for the part. Huntresses, that means you were not groomed properly. Research shows that, for men, clothes are more crucial to first impressions. For women, it is her body and face.
Huntresses, you may well ask, ‘Is make-up all that important?’ Let’s go to the studies. Researchers asked men to talk with six different women who sometimes wore makeup, sometimes didn’t. Their study, ‘Lipstick as a Determiner of First Impressions of Personality’, revealed that the male opinion of each woman was very different when she wore lipstick.11
Women, how many times, sauntering down the street without your make-up, have you spotted Handsome Stranger, who does not even look your way? If he is a typical male attracted by rosy lips and nice big eyes, what do you expect? Men, how many times, in your grungy clothes, have you tried to talk to Lovely Lady on the bus who gives you a cursory answer and looks away? If she is a typical woman attracted by an air of competence and success, what do you expect?
We get lazy about first impressions due to the reinforcement theory. Say you fix yourself up for the kill. You go out to walk the dog three times, four times, looking like a traffic-stopper, and nothing happens.
So you say, ‘This doesn’t work.’
In my sales seminars I tell participants that the average sale is not made until after the fifth sales call. Give it some time. Can’t you wait five more dog-walks for your future beloved to say, ‘Nice doggy. What’s his name? And, by the way, what’s yours?’
Stay Psychologically ‘Fit to Kill’
Not only should you be physically ready, you must keep your mental doors open to let love walk in … wherever you are. PLPs do not just enter your life from parties and singles’ clubs.
Cindy is an attractive young manicurist who has been doing my nails for several years. (There must be some drug in nail polish remover that dissolves women’s inhibitions and induces them to spill every detail of their lives as they hold hands across the manicure table). For months Cindy has been griping to me that, in her line of work, she only meets women.
TECHNIQUE 2
Stay Psychologically ‘Fit to Kill’
Big-game hunters lay bear traps even before they spot the bear. Fishermen cast nets long before