You Are an Awesome Woman. Becca Anderson
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Organization Is the Key to Happiness
Do you come home every night and feel a bit guilty about the stacks and piles of clutter? Is something blocking your creativity or the get-up-and-go you need for all your household projects? Does your energy feel “stuck” in certain rooms, even impeding a good night’s sleep in your own bed? Is your desk or workstation hopelessly cluttered? Do you go out or order in dinner all the time, not even wanting to cook in your own kitchen? If any of this rings true, I wrote this book for you.
Your home and office should feel like a sanctuary. We should be able to walk in the front door and immediately feel a sense of comfort, refuge, and safe haven. There are lots of things you can do, both large and small, that will make a tangible difference in the way your home feels and functions. Getting rid of anything you no longer use will increase the functionality of your home by making it easier to clean, increase orderliness, and improve energy. I made a breakthrough discovery two years ago when I decided to unpack boxes I had never opened since moving in six years before. While they were tucked away, unseen in the basement storage area, I knew they were there. One weekend, I decided to take the plunge and open those boxes. Going through our things can be an emotional experience; I remember finding a card from a friend who had passed away and immediately becoming misty-eyed. Powered by a triple latte, I plowed through the boxes and placed objects into three designated areas: Donate, Trash, and Keep. The goal was to have as little in the “Keep” zone as possible. I am proud to say that even less was in the trash, and that was only a few items that had broken during the move. “Donate” became several carloads to the Recycle and Reuse Center. Once I got the knack of it, most of the “Keep” pile ended up there, too. After the whirl of activity, something unexpected happened: I felt suddenly very buoyant and much lighter. I realized those unopened boxes had caused an invisible cloud of guilt; they had weighed me down. When the cloud lifted, I experienced a kind of effervescent joy. It was simply wonderful. I ask you, what might be holding you back from being utterly happy at home or at work?
If managing your life feels like a war, then half of every battle is getting things in order. For me, it’s no fun at all. I have this nagging feeling that I have two lives going on simultaneously: the fun stuff and the rest of it. For example, I love to cook but despise washing dishes. I love the feeling of paying off the monthly bills, but often can’t get myself together to do it until a week past the deadline, and then I feel miserable about the cumulative effect on my credit score. And any upheaval—a move, an emergency, or just getting a bad head cold—throws me for a loop. How did I let this go?! I ask myself, crazed. Why is my house filled with paper?! (One in every five pieces is really important, I swear.)
Well, it’s time for a detox, a deep cleansing, and a spring cleaning. Doing your taxes. Clearing and sorting your wardrobe. Getting rid of the magazines you’ve been unwittingly storing since college. What a wonderful release. Now, those are the big projects, and don’t worry yourself into trying to do them all at once. Just pick a project each month and do it a little at a time, or else set aside a whole weekend to blast through, whatever suits your style.
And for the rest of the month, take aim at the little, repetitive, everyday stuff. Work hard to make it a habit to sort your mail right away, clean out your pockets and purse every day, and dream up new ways to multitask effectively. Train yourself to make a difference in tiny ways all day long, and soon you’ll forget it’s an annoyance because when it all adds up, you’re way ahead of the game. If you can coax yourself into making the art of organization second nature, I promise it will serve you forever.
Find Your Focus
You may not be able to foresee what the universe has planned for you, but that doesn’t mean your own plans should be unpredictable.
SANDRA OLIVER
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Sometimes I still lose my head, even though it is attached to my body. But if I’ve left myself a note,
I can usually find it again.
MARLO THOMAS
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Detail is electric.
BONNI GOLDBERG
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To know where you can find a thing is the
chief part of learning.
UNKNOWN
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Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment you are in can you receive whatever gift, lesson, or delight that moment has to offer.
BARBARA DE ANGELIS
On clutter: chaos begets chaos in our homes,
and in our minds.
CAROL WISEMAN
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A place for everything, and everything in its place.
ISABELLA MARY BEETON
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Just before bedtime prayers, evaluate each day. Make plans for tomorrow that will move you toward your long-range goal.
FLORENCE S. JACOBSEN
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Words are a lens to focus one’s mind.
AYN RAND
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Most of what you obtain in life will be because of your discipline. Discipline is perhaps more important than ability.
CHRISTINE DARDEN
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Never walk into or out of a meeting without
a clear agenda.
MARY JANE RYAN
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Many a woman has a “to-do” list that resembles the phone book! Don’t overdo your “to-do” list. Keep it reasonable and keep it doable.
LESLIE ROSSMAN
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Write out your problem on a piece of paper, stick the paper in a drawer, and close it. Do not allow yourself to look at or think about the list until the end of the week. By then, you may look at your problems differently and will have solutions.
MICHELLE STRONG
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I don’t wait for moods. You accomplish nothing
if you do that. Your mind must know it has got to get down to work.
PEARL S. BUCK
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Plan and Prepare
Look twice before you leap.
CHARLOTTE BRONTË
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The very best impromptu speeches are the ones written well in advance.
RUTH GORDON
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What I’ve learned from fairy tales: Invest in some good string rather than breadcrumbs. That way, you can always find the path back to the gingerbread house.
WENDY ST. CHARLES
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Failing to plan is planning to fail.
EFFIE JONES
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If one asks for success and prepares for failure, she will get the situation she has prepared for.
FLORENCE SCOVEL SHINN
Don’t agonize. Organize.
FLORYNCE KENNEDY
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Plans are necessary to life and achievement in any sphere. But they should never overcome our powers of flexibility.
DIXIE MARTIN
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