Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC

      With offices at:

      500 Third Street, Suite 230

      San Francisco, CA 94107

       www.redwheelweiser.com

      Copyright © 1991, 1995 by Daphne Rose Kingma. All Rights Reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission, except in the case of brief quotations in critical articles or reviews.

      ISBN: 978-1-57324-861-7

       Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

      Kingma, Daphne Rose.

      Weddings from the heart : contemporary and traditional ceremonies for an unforgettable wedding / Daphne Rose Kingma. — 2nd ed.

      p. cm.

      ISBN: 0-943233-94-1 (trade paper)

      1. Marriage service—United States. I. Title.

      HQ745.K48

      1994

      392'.5—dc20

      94-30922

      Cover Photography: © Corbis Images/PictureQuest

      Cover and Book Design: Maxine Ressler

      Printed in Canada

      TCP

      10 9 8 7 6 5 4

      The author would like to thank the following for permission to reprint the works indicated:

      “Tree Marriage” from Partial Accounts by William Meredith. © 1987 by William Meredith. Reprinted by permission of Alfred A. Knopf, Inc. “Know Deeply, Know Thyself More Deeply” by D.H. Lawrence, from The Complete Poems of D.H. Lawrence by D.H. Lawrence, edited by V. de Sola Pinto & F. W. Roberts. © 1964, 1971 by Angelo Ravagli and C. M. Weekley, Executors of the Estate of Frieda Lawrence Ravagli. Used by permission of Viking Penguin, a division of Penguin Books USA Inc. Excerpt from “The Country of Marriage” in The Country of Marriage, © 1971 by Wendell Berry, reprinted by permission of Harcourt Brace & Company. Open Secret: Quatrain 1246 (page 19) Versions of Rumi, translated by John Moyne and Coleman Barks, reprinted by permission of Threshold Books, RD 4 Box 600, Putney, VT 05346. “Love Comes Quietly” from The Collected Poems of Robert Creeley by Robert Creeley, © 1983 The Regents of the University of California, reprinted by permission of the University of California Press. Excerpt from A Natural History of Love by Diane Ackerman, reprinted by permission of Random House, Inc. “Epithalamion” reprinted from the Landscape at the End of the Century by Stephen Dunn, with the permission of W. W. Norton & Company, Inc. © 1991 by Stephen Dunn. “So Much Happiness” from Hugging the Jukebox by Naomi Shihab Nye, © Naomi Shihab Nye, reprinted by permission of the author. “The Blind Leading the Blind” from Learning to Play by Ear by Lisel Mueller. Reprinted by permission of Juniper Press. Excerpts from Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke, translated by Stephen Mitchell. © 1984 by Stephen Mitchell. Reprinted by permission of Random House, Inc. “Taking the Hands” from Silence in the Snowy Fields by Robert Bly. © 1962 by Robert Bly, Wesleyan University Press. Reprinted by permission of University Press of New England. “The Ivy Crown” from The Collected Poems of William Carlos Williams, 1939-1962. © 1955 by William Carlos Williams. Reprinted by permission of New Directions Publishing Corporation and Carcanet Press Limited. “A Vision” from Poems 1960-1967 by Denise Levertov. © 1966 by Denise Levertov Goodman. First printed in Poetry. Reprinted by permission of New Direction Publishing Corporation. “somewhere i have never travelled, gladly beyond” and the lines from “i am so glad and very” are reprinted from Complete Poems 1913-1962, by e.e. cummings, by permission of Liveright Publishing Corporation and MacGibbon and Kee, and imprint of HarperCollins Publishers Limited. © 1923, 1925, 1931, 1935, 1938, 1939, 1940, 1944, 1946, 1947, 1948, 1949, 1950, 1951, 1952, 1953, 1954, 1955, 1956, 1957, 1958, 1959, 1960, 1961, 1962 by the Trustees for the e.e. cummings Trust. © 1961, 1962 by Marion Morehouse Cummings. “In Love Made Visible” from The Love Poems of May Swenson. © 1991 by the Literary Estate of May Swenson. Originally published in Ms. magazine. Reprinted by permission of Houghton Mifflin Company. “Psalm 1” from A Book of Psalms by Stephen Mitchell. © 1993 by Stephen Mitchell. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. “A Prayer for a Wedding” reprinted with permission of Simon & Schuster from On Occasion by Joel. L. Oppenheimer. © 1973 by Joel L. Oppenheimer.

      ESPECIALLY FOR YOU

       Because You Want to Have an Unforgettable Wedding

      WEDDINGS FROM THE HEART

       YOUR UNFORGETTABLE WEDDING

       Building on Tradition

       Using This Book

       REFLECTIONS ON MARRIAGE

       CREATING YOUR CEREMONY

       Questions for Reflection

       Finding an Officiant

       Choosing Your Attendants

       Creating the Community

       Selecting Invitations

       Choosing the Setting

       The Light in Your Ceremony

       Musical Considerations

       To Rehearse or Not?

       Final Reminders

       Postscript

       THE CEREMONIAL ELEMENTS

       Скачать книгу