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      Table of Contents

       Cover Page

       Title Page

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Work successfully with difficult people

Understand what makes us tick

1.1 Define what you mean by difficult

1.2 Accept that we are all different

1.3 Ensure communication is two-way

1.4 Manage change

1.5 Understand assertiveness

1.6 Find the causes of discord

Look in the mirror

2.1 Develop your emotional intelligence

2.2 Understand your own reactions

2.3 Check your confidence levels

2.4 Ask yourself, “How do I look to others?”

       Step into their shoes

       3.1 First take off your own shoes

       3.2 Be specific

       3.3 Ask yourself how they are different to you

       3.4 Accept some differences

       3.5 Focus on what motivates

       3.6 Establish trust

       3.7 Allow for different cultures

       3.8 Tailor relationships to suit the need

       Give difficult people a chance

       4.1 Display leadership

       4.2 Define clear outcomes

       4.3 Define clear roles and measures

       4.4 Reward the right activities and results

       4.5 Reinforce appropriate behaviour

       4.6 Communicate with a clear purpose

       Use the right tool for the situation

       5.1 Dig out the data

       5.2 Diagnose the problem

       5.3 Decide if there is a task-related issue

       5.4 Form a psychological contract

       5.5