Jessica Kingsley Publishers

      London and Philadelphia

      First published in 2005 by Perspectives Press, Indianapolis, USA

      This second edition published in 2013

      by Jessica Kingsley Publishers

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      Copyright © Ellen Sarasohn Glazer and Evelina Weidman Sterling 2005, 2013

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      Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data

      Glazer, Ellen Sarasohn.

      Having your baby through egg donation / Ellen Sarasohn Glazer and Evelina Weidman Sterling. -- Second edition.

      pages cm

      Includes bibliographical references and index.

      ISBN 978-1-84905-901-5 (alk. paper)

      1. Human reproductive technology--Popular works. 2. Ovum--Transplantation. 3. Infertility--Psychological aspects. I. Sterling, Evelina Weidman, 1970- II. Title.

      RG133.5.G56 2013

      618.1’7806--dc23

      2012049213

      British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data

      A CIP catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library

      ISBN 978 1 84905 901 5

      eISBN 978 0 85700 652 3

      Printed and bound in Great Britain

      This book is dedicated to the loving memory of

      Dr. Susan Cooper, who taught me all I need to know

      about life, love, motherhood, and new ways of building families. Her life was a blessing.

      EG

      I dedicate this book to my children, Benjamin and Elena.

      ES

      Contents

       ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

       1Some Introductions

       2An Overview of Egg Donation

       3Deciding Whether to Pursue Egg Donation

       4Choosing Your Donor

       5Mental Health Counseling and Legal Issues

       6Attempting Pregnancy: A Collaborative Effort

       7Pregnancy with Donated Eggs

       8Parenthood after Egg Donation

       9Ethics and Faith

       10The Globalization of Egg Donation

       11Egg Donation, Ever Changing

       RESOURCES

       REFERENCES

Acknowledgements

      We acknowledge the contributions of the many mothers and fathers through egg donation who have shared their personal stories with us and the professionals who have shared their experience and wisdom and are quoted informally throughout this book. The following people gave generously of their time and expertise: Judy Calica, MSW; Ruth Claiborne, JD; Susan L. Crockin, JD; Joann Paley Galst, PhD; Elaine Gordon, PhD; Carol Fulwiler Jones, MA; Wendy Kramer; Sharon LaMothe; Carol Lesser, NP; Joe B. Massey, MD; Patricia Mendell, LCSW; Olivia Montuschi; Kris Probasco, MSW; Christine Reynolds; Judy Shankman, RN; Ruth Shidlo, PhD; Sanford Benardo, Esq and Jean Kollantai of CLIMB; Carole Lieber Wilkins, MFT; Robin Newman; Ellie Goldman, LICSW; Susan Levin, LICSW; Adele Kauffman, PhD; and Carole Lieber Wilkins, MA. A special thanks goes to Diane Allen of the Infertility Network in Canada, whose tireless work has kept us up to date on matters relating to egg donation worldwide.

      I (Ellen) give a special thanks to my husband, Dan Manning, without whose patience, support and computer literacy this book would not exist. I am also grateful to my grandson, Ryan Levesque, who has taught me that the gift of parenthood is a gift that keeps on giving. And, as the dedication of