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      Preface Copyright © 2006 by Richard Carlson, PhD

      Revised edition Copyright © 1997 by Richard Carlson, PhD

      Original edition Copyright © 1992 by Richard Carlson, PhD

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      Cover design: Tracy Pitts

      Text layout and design: Tona Pearce Myers

      Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

      Carlson, Richard, 1961 May 16–

      You can be happy no matter what : five principles for keeping life in perspective / Richard Carlson . -- 15th anniversary ed. p. cm.

      ISBN-13: 978-1-57731-568-1 (pbk. : alk. paper)

      ISBN-13: 978-1-63353-539-8 (ebook: digital)

      1. Happiness. 2. Contentment. I. Title.

      BF575.H27 C375 2006

      97-15902

      158.1—dc22

      2006033782

      First printing of this edition, January 2007

      ISBN-10: 1-57731-568-5

      ISBN-13: 978-1-57731-568-1

      Printed in the United States on acid-free paper

      New World Library is a proud member of the Green Press Initiative.

      Distributed by Publishers Group West

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      Dedication

      To my beautiful children — may you always be happy no matter what.

      Table of Contents

      Part 1: Principles

       Chapter 1 The Principle of Thought

       Chapter 2 The Principle of Moods

       Chapter 3 The Principle of Separate Realities

       Chapter 4 The Principle of Feelings

       Chapter 5 The Principle of The Present Moment

      Part 2: aplpying the Principles

       Chapter 6 Relationships

       Chapter 7 Stress

       Chapter 8 Solving Problems

       Chapter 9 Happiness

       Chapter 10 Habits and Addictions

       Chapter 11 A Checklist For Your Life

      Preface To The 15Th Anniversary

      TIME REALLY DOES SEEM TO FLY! It’s been fifteen years since New World Library published the original edition of You Can Be Happy No Matter What. Around that time, my wife, Kris, and I had one two-year-old, Jazzy, and Kris was pregnant with our second daughter, Kenna. Today, the girls are teenagers, and the older one is preparing to leave for college. All of us — you, me, and everyone else — have gotten older. Our families, relationships, careers, and lives have changed dramatically — physically, financially, spiritually.

      Recently, someone suggested to me that what I wrote in this book fifteen years ago was perfect for its time. But he felt very strongly that we now live in a completely different world — a more dangerous and less certain world than ever before. “It’s far more difficult today to be happy than it was back in the nineties,” he said.

      While I certainly would agree that the world has changed a great deal, particularly since September 11, 2001, I’m happy to report that our capacity for happiness is the same as it has always been. Being happy is an inside job. As Wayne Dyer says in the foreword to this book, “Many people mistakenly believe that circumstances make a person. They don’t. Instead, they reveal him or her.” That statement was true fifteen years ago, it’s true today, and it will be true fifteen years from now. We’ve always been able to point to certain people who face extremely difficult circumstances yet live extraordinary, happy lives. Conversely, of course, we can find plenty of people who enjoy wonderful circumstances full of every conceivable blessing yet live lives of perpetual unhappiness, even misery.

      While circumstances do indeed change, both individually and collectively, what don’t change are the universal principles that, when truly practiced, point us in the direction of happiness.

      When our minds are still and quiet, one of the first things we discover is that our natural state is one of inner peace. This contented state of mind is always present whenever we are not interfering with it, not using our thinking as a weapon against ourselves. And when we experience this peaceful state of mind, it allows us to be happy, despite our imperfect circumstances and the chaotic world. What’s more, when we learn to be happy and we have what we need emotionally, we are better equipped to make a positive difference in the world. In other words, we can’t give what we don’t have; if we’re not happy, we can’t contribute to the happiness of others.

      This book explains five extraordinarily simple yet profound principles that, once understood and practiced, pave the way to a more content, peaceful, and happy life. All five principles explain how our minds operate and can, depending on how we use them, determine our level of well-being. Of course, no one is happy all the time, and you won’t be after reading this book. You can, however, learn to get yourself back on track much more quickly than before. You can learn to avoid the type of