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it, you really do not need this technology, frankly speaking. Just use your own words, original words. So that your texts are as different as possible from what people see every day on Instagram.
– Is it necessary to clean old posts on Instagram? Now I am disappointed in them.
– I do not recommend cleaning old posts – people like to see your growth, your dynamics. People themselves want to grow, and they like to watch you come to success. It can inspire your audience.
– I do not have a personal brand. I do not want to create it.
The fact is that you already have a personal brand, regardless of whether you want it or not. This is good news for someone, bad for someone. Just know this – you already have an image and a personal brand. And it depends only on you whether you leave everything as it is – or take matters into your own hands. People see you every day – so make sure that they see the leader in front of them!
– It’s easy for you to say – you have a lot of subscribers. I would have at least 1000…
– Do you know Kevin Kelly? He said that you can conquer the world if you have only 1000 real fans. It’s so easy to get 1000 subscribers. I gained a lot of subscribers in one simple way. I went to the pages of popular bloggers and leave them comments. I didn’t leave spammy comments like «Wow! Cool! Cool! Awesome dress!» I left thoughtful reviews because it is easy. In each post each blogger asks a question to his audience. And is waiting for an answer. I wrote detailed competent answers so that people would become incredibly curious – who is this? Who is she? And they went to my profile – and stayed with me.
– Is it important to develop accounts in other social networks?
– I’ll tell you: Instagram replaces everything. This social network is doing everything to overshadow all others. Every month or quarter, Instagram adds new features – a few months ago I told you: «Remember my word, Instagram will copy the cool features of Tik Tok to overshadow it!» And today you see everything with your own eyes. My next prediction – Instagram will make its payment system!
CHAPTER 4. How to explain it all to your family
The leader’s most difficult step is erasing the memory of your failures from your family members.
I would like to talk with you about what I identified in the process of working with hundreds of students of my «The Royal Charisma» program -important limitations and beliefs that prevent you from becoming leaders.
Fear.
Many of you are afraid to be leaders. The deepest fear lives in you, and it goes back to childhood. That a leader is a bad mother, a bad wife or bad husband. That if you are a leader, you will be convicted. They will convict your motherhood, your attitude to the child, that the husband will leave without receiving attention, and even your loved ones will turn away. This is a very strong and very common belief.
Someone even wrote to me that leaders are rude, soulless, arrogant, that they do not see people, they only see their goals. They wrote to me that money spoil people. I help people to build their personal brand. And in the process of work my students say: «When my money appears, I immediately start to think that I feel good alone. That I can live peacefully without a partner in love.» That is, when a person has money, he feels so much confidence in himself that such thoughts appear: «Why do I need companion if I can do everything for myself, if I really mean something without partner?». And people are ashamed of these thoughts. And when we talk about this in the leadership context, a contradiction arises: «I kind of want to be a leader, but I have a shame of what I think inside myself». And no matter how we resist, the opinions of others always influence us.
Also a lot of questions were asking me: how to cope with the fear of communicating with people? How to ignore your fear? If I knew a magic phrase that instantly removes this, I would immediately voice it to you and would not write this chapter. If I myself had not gone through all this. I faced with condemnation from my loved ones, from my family when I took the liberty of doing what I want and not what was wanted from me. And I want to let you work out the practices that I developed for myself. I am deeply convinced that nothing can be better than the author’s, better than what was created by a person from soul experience. The truly valuable things can not be found on the first pages of Google. Otherwise, I would not have give my intensives and programs with such success for you.
Parents monitor our lives, including our social networks, even when we become adults. And it interrupts our leadership when the family is closely watching and sometimes expressing something unpleasant about your social networks. And if you also come across this, then you will confirm that this is a very popular situation. For our parents we are always the children whom they treated, scolded, and then something unexpected happens for them – you begin to glow on YouTube, upload something to Instagram. They are experiencing, and it is important for them that no changes occur in our lives. Because for older people any changes are associated with unpleasantness for us, with danger. And the main task of our loved ones, as they think to themselves, is to protect us. And so they will protect us with all their might. And remember: you do not need to seek support from your loved ones when you step on a leadership path.
They can tell you: «You can’t do this. You never could do such kind of things. You were always a nerd. You are our family clown, a jerk. Such a shame!»
Remember the simple dogma – if you follow the advice of your parents, you will repeat their fate.
And if this is what you want, take parental advice with gratitude. But if you, like most people, experience panic at the mere thought of living a life like your parents do, do not follow their advice.
Just mentally thank them every time they guide you on the path that they think is true – take their energy and give it to them.
Yes, it’s so easy right here. Mentally collect their energy in a ball – and transfer it back to them. They lack energy. They will thank you – even unknowingly – when you will secretly support them.
It’s sometimes difficult for us to change anything. In-depth studies are underway. The surrounding reality affects us. Our family wants to protect us and therefore is not always polite with us. But when you become a leader and reveal your charisma, your family begins to see a completely different personality in you. Their vision of you is changing. And even if before you were weak in their eyes, if you were the one needs to be taken care of, you become born strong in their eyes. The past is really changing.
I was able to change my family opinion about me. Since childhood I suffered from a terrible stuttering, which I overcame myself – no one could help me, even experts who were self-proclaimed the best. My family didn’t help me too. I was all alone face to face with my problem. I could not speak for almost a quarter century. I made myself. I pulled myself out of this abyss of despair. When I came to my relatives, I showed them videos with poems in different languages that I read. They told me: «God, what a beautiful voice you have!» And what I did? I looked straight into their eyes and answered: «But I always had a beautiful voice. It is surprising for me to hear that.» And people who knew me longer than I know myself, agreed with me! And I saw in their eyes not sympathy, but real hypnosis.
The past, present, future are non-linear – they go in a spiral. I returned to this point and changed the past.
The past can be changed. And your relatives, your loved ones, will see in you a person who will save your entire family! You will be the salvation of the clan, and do not think that the whole family will sit on your neck. No! It is different energy. I know that it’s really important for me to help you to overcome this moment with your family, because I myself went through this. I dealt with fears, dealt with criticism of relatives. But I never was out of the way. I knew that I had goals and dreams.