The Clitical Guide to Female Self-Pleasure: How to Please Yourself So Your Partner Can Too. Jenne Davis
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clitoral glans, is the small pea-sized bud of smooth, spongy, erectile tissue located at the top of the labia minora. It is covered, either partially or completely, by the clitoral hood – a flap of skin that looks like a hood over a little head. The clitoral hood is designed to protect the head of the clitoris, which may become erect and protrude from the clitoral hood when you are fully turned on.
However, the visible head of the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg. When someone uses the phrase ‘the tip of the iceberg’, it refers to the fact that as much as seven-eighths of the iceberg’s mass is under water, leaving only a small portion exposed. The clitoris is very much like an iceberg in that only the small glans is visible to us, but it actually extends into the body. The entire clitoris resembles a four-inch wishbone. It extends from the external and visible pea-sized tip, up the shaft, and into the body.
Just as penises come in all shapes and sizes so do clitorises and while the average size of the clitoris is about one-quarter of an inch in diameter, it is possible to have a clitoris that can measure up to two and a half inches in length and one inch in diameter. When they are this large they bear a striking resemblance to a small penis, which is not really so surprising when you learn that the penis and clitoris are made up of the same tissues and develop from the same tissue when they are in the fetus. As with breasts, the clitoris will vary in size from woman to woman, and a small clitoris does not impact a woman's ability to orgasm.
Exercise:
Take a hand-held mirror and take another look at your vulva. Really concentrate on finding your clitoris this time. Not just your clitoral head, but your entire clitoris, which includes the shaft that runs along your inner labia. Now spend a little time touching just one side of your clitoral shaft at first, then the other. The fascinating thing about the clitoral shaft is that many women will report more sensitivity on one side than the other. As you stroke each side of the shaft, take note of how your clitoris reacts to each touch. If you have a large clitoral hood, then the chances are you will see the clitoris or pea-shaped object begin to peek out as you become more aroused. If you have a small clitoral hood, this might be a little less pronounced, but look a little closer and get familiar with your clitoris.
Vagina
The vagina performs many functions. Not only does it accept the penis during sex, captures sperm during ejaculation, and acts as a pathway for an egg, it also provides sexual pleasure, allows us to give birth and also to have periods. The vagina is the term that refers to the internal workings of the vulva and, as I have said before, people often confuse the two. Vulva outside: vagina inside.
Like your eye, your vagina is a self-cleaning organ. No, it doesn't cry, but it does produce fluids that will cause it to naturally cleanse itself. It is a muscular barrel that measures in at around three or four inches long when you are not turned on. This might not sound very long, given that the average penis measures in at around five inches, but this is where the magic of the vagina really begins. Once you are turned on, or ‘aroused’, to give it its correct term, your vagina has the ability to expand. Think of it as a piece of elastic, if you will. This elastic nature is what allows a woman to accommodate pretty much any size of penis. It also allows us to give birth, although this process is slightly different from the one above. Your vagina is angled upward at around a 65-degree angle, which is, indecently, the angle that the average penis sits at once it is erect. Unlike some popular myths would have us believe, the vagina is not a wide-open, gaping hole. It's actually a collapsed space that contracts and expands when excited or penetrated. When you are turned on your vagina stretches out as you become more excited. In addition, your cervix and uterus will pull up and backward to allow more space for penetration, whilst the back of the vagina balloons out to create even more space. When you are not aroused your vagina resembles a collapsed hose.
If you took a look inside your vagina, you would find it is pink, glistening, and has folds, called ‘rugea’, which give your vagina a ribbed texture. When you are younger these folds are more pronounced, but as you grow older they gradually disappear. When you become turned on, your vagina begins to lubricate itself and forms what look like beads of sweat all over its walls. The first third of your vagina is where you will find two-thirds of the nerve endings that reside there. So, as a general rule, the first two inches of your vagina are the tightest and the most sensitive when you are being penetrated. This is due to the fact that this area will fill with blood and become engorged.
Despite popular belief, you cannot accurately determine how turned on a woman is just by her vaginal wetness. It's possible to be highly aroused and have a completely dry vagina. Most of the time your ability to self-lubricate will be affected by a couple of things: your level of estrogen or other hormones can greatly change at certain times, such as, for example, if you are stressed, sick, have a poor diet, or depending on where you are with your menstrual cycle. As is well documented that as you reach the menopause vaginal dryness is much more common due to your body producing less estrogen, but this is easily overcome by adding some personal lubricant into the mix.
Exercise:
If you are comfortable with inserting a finger into your vagina then you can try this exercise. If you aren't, it's fine to wait until you are comfortable with doing so.
Place your finger into your vagina and feel around. I swear it won't bite. Take a moment to get used to both the feeling of your vagina being filled and also how your vagina feels.
Butt
So, I know what you’re thinking! Why on earth would I put this into a book about female masturbation? The simple answer is: everyone has a butt and although, it's true, that it is always lagging behind, it can be a source of great foreplay when it comes to solo sex.
Exercise:
Have you ever tried slapping your butt, either gently or with greater force? Just try it and you might just be surprised by the way your body responds to a slap when you are in the right frame of mine to be sexy and flirty with yourself. Try varying the pressure you use and see which type of pressure, if any, has an effect on you.
Anus and Perineum
Since time began, the anus has been accepted as an erogenous zone. The walls of your anus are packed jam-full of nerve endings and can provide a great deal of pleasure. The other part of your anatomy that you may gain pleasure from playing with is your perineum, which is located between your vaginal opening and your anus. This area also contains many, many nerve and can be very pleasurable to touch. Of course the anus is an area that is generally associated with poo, and for good reason, as this is where your body expels its waste. There are a couple of precautions you can, and should, take if you consider playing with your anus, especially anal penetration. I would strongly recommend that you invest in some latex gloves and make sure your fingernails are trimmed before you begin any type of anal play. The other is that the anus, unlike the vagina, does not self-lubricate and a good water-based lube can make any form of penetration a more pleasurable experience, and a safer one, as it is possible to tear the delicate muscles of the sphincter.
Exercise:
If you want to see if anal masturbation might be for you, I suggest you grab those latex gloves I just told you to buy, unless of course you have a latex allergy, and some of that water-based lube, and begin to explore. Start by pressing against your perineum and see how your body reacts. The most important thing to remember with any type of anal play is that you need to relax, especially if you decide to try penetration. If you do want to go further, start by exploring your anal opening, and then gently push your finger up and inside yourself. Start gently and with plenty of lube. If it hurts, then I suggest you stop, as you are too tense to receive your finger or even the top of your finger.
Calves
For many guys your calves can be a huge turn-on. It's the one reason that there are so many pictures of women wearing high heels. High heels accentuate your calves, and if you don't believe me, grab a pair of heels, head for the nearest full-length mirror and take a look at your calves with and without the heels on your feet. Now, can you see the difference?