Steve Miller's Slimming Secrets. Steve Miller
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you are pulled towards, such as seeing yourself slip into that new dress, or being able to play with the kids in the park. The other style of motivation is the opposite to pull, and yes, it’s called ‘push’ style motivation. This is when you are motivated by the negative consequences of being overweight, such as having health problems or getting so fat that you feel completely unattractive. The secret here is to use a combination of both pull and push styles in your weight-loss journey to motivate you into losing weight. For the best possible results, use a combination of the tools that I offer you, and use them at different times over the course of your journey.
PULL STYLE MOTIVATORS
Pin up the outfit
If your motivation to lose weight is to slip into a special outfit that you’ve had your eye on for a while, then go out and buy it today. Take pleasure as you visit your favourite store, knowing that before long you will be celebrating as you slip into that sexy frock, or the tight pair of jeans that really shows off your rear. When you return home, take out the outfit, hold it up and then chose somewhere to hang it up where it’s visible so that you see it frequently. As you look at it, imagine how good you’ll feel when you wear it out and the compliments you will receive from the people around you. If it helps, take a picture of it on your phone so that you can quickly glance at it if ever you are tempted to consume too much junk food or alcohol. This will help you stay on course.
Pin up the success chart
Nothing can be more satisfying than seeing how your success is progressing. Design a large poster to represent how many pounds you need to lose. For example, if you have 27kg (60lb) to lose, you could draw sixty blocks of lard. As each pound drops, rub out a block of lard. This will not only help you feel satisfied, but form a good visual motivator, too. However, if you put a pound back on, then I’m afraid you have to redraw the block of lard. Follow my advice from now on and I promise you it won’t come to that, though.
Wallpaper with affirmations
Like things visual? You can also write down a number of positive affirmations and put them in a place where you will see them during the day. If this suits you, then the ‘see and feel’ motivational tool will work well, too. Use brightly coloured card and write your affirmations in black block capitals. As you see them each day, focus on the words and let those words drift into your mind and become deeply embedded. Typical places to put them can include: on the fridge, on food cupboards, on the bathroom mirror, in your purse or wallet, on the back of the front door and even above the mirror in your lounge! Affirmations should be short and to the point so they are easily absorbed into your mind. Some examples include:
‘I am a successful slimmer.’
‘I am proud to be in control of food.’
‘I melt the lard every day.’
‘I feel brilliant about my new life.’
‘I’m excited about my new dress.’
‘I see myself sexier and slimmer.’
‘I enjoy my new health.’
‘I am the boss of food.’
‘I know losing weight is easy.’
‘I hear myself being so much more confident.’
‘I see a new me every day.’
‘I feel so focused and excited about losing weight each day.’
‘I love to hear the compliments others say.’
‘I feel so in control of my life and food.’
The list can go on. However, a word of caution: avoid using the word ‘not’ in your affirmations as this can have the reverse affect. For example, if I were to say to you, ‘do not think of a chocolate biscuit’, invariably you will do just that and picture your favourite chocolate digestive! Always keep the affirmations positive.
Develop a flirt plan and enjoy it!
Well, it has to be said, there’s nothing like a good old flirt! And, as they say, window-shopping is absolutely fine if you are in a relationship. I remember the newfound attention I was showered with after I lost all my weight and boy, oh boy, did it make me feel great! Whether you like it or not, we judge people initially on the way they look. And yes, men are initially more drawn to what they see, rather than what they hear and do: judging a book by its cover. So, if your motivation is about feeling better about your image and being attractive to others, there is nothing wrong with a bit of gentle flirting. Let’s face it, it’s fun and it doesn’t half make you feel good if the flirting is reciprocated. If flirting more as the weight drops off is one of your motivators, let me share a few tips:
Give three different verbal or non-verbal signals. When you give the first signal the other person is going to check to see if it’s really them that you are checking out. However, the second time they know it’s them and believe me, they will be pleased! The third time you can perhaps make small talk, such as explaining how you like what he or she is wearing, or express interest by asking them over and informing them that you recognise their face. As you start chatting, move away from the crowd a little. The person you’re having the flirt with doesn’t want to feel you will reject them in front of others, so create a bit of space. If you go out with a friend, then do separate every so often or take a breather from talking because people won’t want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you.
Treating people gently is also very important. If someone flirts with you and you are not interested in him or her, be kind. Avoid raising your eyes disapprovingly, or laughing as that person walks away. Be realistic and not mean because if you do this, you are limiting your chances of other people approaching you.
With your body shrinking day by day, monitor your body language as you flirt so that it looks confident. Sit and stand tall. It really is amazing how much more confident you will appear if you do this. Your outward presence increases and others will see you as someone they respect and would actually like to talk to. The same goes with your eyes; smile with them, as well as with your mouth. And above all, as you do so, remind yourself how losing weight is turning you into a sex magnet.
If you fancy playing a game, walk through a group of women or men and see which of them is checking you out. Remember, even if it’s just one or two, enjoy! The weight is dropping and you are becoming irresistible. Before long, it will be the whole crowd who can’t keep their eyes off you.
As the weight drops off, there’s nothing wrong with making yourself more irresistible. Consider wearing new make-up, showing a little flesh, wearing different accessories, or even getting yourself a completely new hairdo.
Be a role model to your children
There’s no doubt that as your lifestyle changes and you eat less, eat more healthily and become more active, the example you set to your children will be excellent and will motivate you even further. It’s a fact that there is a direct relationship between fat parents and fat kids. This isn’t a genetic inevitability, but one of pure lifestyle habit that parents pass on to their offspring. If a child constantly sees his parents slouching on the sofa and packing in piles of junk food then, and I’m sure you will agree, it’s common sense that he will do just the same. And it’s logical to assume that the parents are overfeeding their kids on piles and piles of junk food, and that they too will become fat. It’s rightly said that underfeeding kids is child cruelty, but I also believe overfeeding kids is just the same. This may sound like a push style of motivation, but I want us to make it a pull style. In other words, a motivation that will excite you, knowing your children are becoming fitter, healthier and less likely to suffer health problems because you are leading the way for them to follow.
Being a role