Steve Miller's Slimming Secrets. Steve Miller
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You can smile because I want you to know that right now you are taking back the control [PAUSE] things are changing radically [PAUSE] I suppose it’s a bit like a promotion for you [PAUSE], promoted to a position that gives you leadership and control over food [PAUSE] and you deserve it, and [PAUSE] as you read this, I am suggesting deep into your mind that you [PAUSE] yes, you [PAUSE], are in control [PAUSE] in control of your choice over food [PAUSE]. More and more, you have the ability [PAUSE] to think [PAUSE] and decide for yourself what and how much food you will eat [PAUSE].
‘And in the course of selecting what food you will eat [PAUSE], you notice that your choice is more calculated [PAUSE], it is more guided to what you want to eat [PAUSE], all for your benefit [PAUSE] and because you want to slim [PAUSE], slim down into being the person you really want to be [PAUSE]. It is not surprising that you choose healthy foods [PAUSE]. You choose healthy foods because you are now in control [PAUSE] and because you are in control of food, you are feeling so much better about yourself [PAUSE]. These words you hear right now sink into your mind so that the control of food becomes second nature [PAUSE]. In fact, there will be times you don’t even think about it because it’s automatic [PAUSE].
‘Knowing you are now in control of food brings a warm satisfaction with it [PAUSE] and it’s not only the choice of food that you control [PAUSE], you are now controlling how much you eat [PAUSE] and because you are in control of how much you eat [PAUSE], you have no desire to binge on food [PAUSE], no desire to binge at all [PAUSE], because for you food control is now about choice and portion [PAUSE] with no desire to binge [PAUSE]. You are pleased to notice that your control is stronger than you ever could imagine [PAUSE]. Food control is with you [PAUSE], deep in your mind [PAUSE], now firmly a part of you [PAUSE], where it will remain for good [PAUSE].’
DIVERSION WITH AVERSION
This is one psychological trick that can work well. It involves creating an aversion to certain foods that you want to eliminate from your life because they are just too fattening. In essence, what you will be doing is programming your mind so that it automatically feels repulsed when it either thinks of, or actually sees particular foods. Recently, I managed to support a client in developing an aversion to jelly sweets.
Lorraine was eating at least two or three packets a day and as they were full of sugar, they were obviously not supporting her weight loss. The aversion technique worked exceptionally well for her as soon as she began to imagine them covered in cottage cheese. Previously, she had explained to me that she had a real distaste for cottage cheese and the thought of jellied sweets mixed with it automatically made her feel sick. If you feel this technique will help you too in gaining control over food you want to stop eating, follow the process described below:
Close your eyes and relax.
Mentally count down from ten to one, with each number on every out breath.
Bring into mind the food that you want to create a dislike for.
Now bring forward something that for you is distasteful, perhaps even makes you feel a little sick.
Imagine both fused together. Pay attention to the smell, taste and feelings it stirs.
Now open your eyes and think about the food responsible for making you gain weight.
Repeat the process until you notice the aversion is strong.
INSTALL AN AUTOMATIC TRIGGER
Have you ever smelt a perfume which has automatically triggered a memory or an emotional response? Perhaps you might have listened to a piece of music and noticed the automatic emotions it has evoked. The reason this happens is because your subconscious mind has had millions of experiences during your life and with those experiences are attached emotions. So, why am I telling you this? Well, based on this psychological principle (which is known as ‘conditioning’), you can also set up an instant sense of control when it comes to food. Let’s look at the steps below:
Sit somewhere comfortable where it is safe to do so, and close your eyes. Drift back to a time when you felt in control. It doesn’t matter what the situation was, just drift back into that experience and relive it. See it, hear it and feel it. If you can’t think of a time when you felt fully in control, just imagine what it feels like.
As you sit there intensify the feelings of control. Give those feelings a score out of ten. If they are currently at six, intensify them even more. Intensify so they reach a nine or ten.
At the point of intensity, squeeze your fist.
Once you have squeezed your fist, replicate the process all over again. Do this at least six times.
Now open your eyes and try squeezing your fist.
You may already be feeling a sense of control as you squeeze your fist. If not, don’t worry: just keep on using the technique until you do. Over time, your subconscious mind will automatically trigger a sense of control as you squeeze your fist because your inner mind now associates a squeezed fist with a feeling of control. Once established, you can use this technique whenever you feel the need to gain some self-control over food. Simply squeeze your fist and allow the control to help you make sensible decisions over food choices and quantity.
CHAT IT UP
Every single minute of the day, we are engaged in conversation – in fact, it’s impossible not to communicate. However, the majority of conversations we have are inside our own mind. We talk to ourselves about how we feel, and we talk to ourselves about other people and the things around us. Naturally, we also do this whenever we see or smell food. Often it’s thoughts like, ‘Oh, that smells good’, or ‘I could just eat that’. The academic terminology for this is ‘cognition’ and our cognitive process is activated as soon as we see food. One of the techniques I have found to benefit my clients is where they hold mental conversations with the food itself. Sounds completely mental? Yes, it probably does, however what you will be doing is taking control of the conversation with the food so you get the upper hand.
Take Joy, who for years had given in to unhealthy food until she finally decided to hold mind conversations with it. In the old days Joy’s mind conversation with the food was, ‘Hi, you look nice and smell delicious, come into my mouth.’ Joy was someone who agreed with the food constantly, and at 114 kilos (18 stone), this was making her pretty miserable. Having coached Joy on mind control with food, she then decided to utilise this particular technique to her advantage. No longer was she in complete agreement with the food when she came into contact with it. Instead, she would mentally inform the food that she was the boss and that she had decided it was not for her. In fact, one of her preferred phrases was, ‘Not today, thank you’. Try this technique by following the steps below:
Look at the food in front of you and then monitor the conversation you are having inside your head.
If you know the food will make you fat, mentally explain to it that you are in control and it’s no longer welcome.
Make it as specific as possible. For example, if you are looking at a tub of ice cream you could mentally say, ‘Ice cream, for the last ten years you have had complete control. However, you need to know that the purpose you served in the past is no longer required. Ice cream, I am waving you goodbye because the fat you used to put on my body is no longer a part of who I am. See you around!’ Of course, say this to yourself because if you say it out loud you may well receive some very strange looks!
Use this technique to build your control over certain foods that you have felt addicted to. Over time, it will help you to eat less of them or even say goodbye to them for good.
Martine’s story
I met Martine several years ago. She telephoned to book an appointment with me and explained that she couldn’t understand why she was eating so much and that it was really getting her down.